Posted by J.L. BOSTICK at 10:27 PM
Friday, September 3, 2010
In our family it is VERY important to us to socialize our children. I was not socialized very well growing up and I know the value of socialization. I am not a social butterfly, I am not a socialite of any means. I am shy, have no clue how to talk to people and often just clam up to people. My husband on the other hand is the epitome of socialization. He could talk to anyone no matter who they were, how they were or what they looked like with such ease that I feel a twinge of jealousy sometimes. However he is in fact my shield. No matter where we go I know all I have to do is stand there and he will do all the talking.
Oh, I was raise by a strong women, I am very opinionated when it comes to handling household endeavors. I could chew out the electric company with the best of them, I can also type until my fingers fall off but when it comes to "personal relationships" I fall VERY short. Outside of my husband, I have no real friends, because I never know what to do or say. My awkwardness kills me every time!
I want...no I NEED my children to be just the opposite of me and the very vision of their father. I have my strengths, strength being one of them but socialization is my biggest weakness. This is why when we decided to home-school I KNEW we needed to be a part of a playgroup or home-school group. If we were still members of the LDS church this would not be a problem because a good half of the church seems to home-school. But we left the church with no intentions of going back just so our children could socialize. I believe strongly in my father in Heaven and I know that his intentions for me do not include going to any church lacking faith. And faith in the Mormon religion is something I do not have. It was their incredible socialization when you first become a member that lead me to them in the first place. It was so nice being accepted in a way I never had before. No, that is not an option. We now go to a small, intimate non denominational church which we love and we plan on keeping it that way.
So where do I look? I have looked on craigslist, homeschool.com, meetup.com and every other .com I can find. I have posted ads in search of a group but never had a response. I did find ONE group half an hour away I was willing to join but they were full with a waiting list a mile long. This waiting list told me that there are NO other groups near me. So , I decided to start my own group only I have no idea how to get the word out. I simply cannot afford to pay the ridiculous fee for meetup.com on the off chance it works. I posted an add on craigslist, homeschool.com, socialtoddler.com as well as various other locations. I even posted in the calendar section of our newspaper but they pick and choose which groups they are going to advertise so who knows if they will ever post it. All I do know is that it has been a few weeks and we have not had one social event. I do NOT want my kids to become "those" homeschoolers. You all know the ones I am talking about! Those kids who, well, are like ME.
So how did YOU do it? How did you manage to find your group? Did you start it yourself? If so , how long did it take to get another family to join you?
I admit it, I need help! This is not my idea of what I want homeschool life to be...